This was the first pic of us on a date where we went for a walk on the American River.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
Author: Henry Stanley Haskins
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Yes, we met on Match.com!!! :-) I wanted to ask to take a picture on our first date but I didn't want to seem too excited. Now I wish I had! I did take take a picture of him, however.
We spent a couple of months with online chats, video chatting and talking on the phone. When we finally met it was kind of weird. A blind date, but not. ???
Anyway, things went really fast for us and it just felt "right." What I remember most (besides how good-looking he still is) was how he made me laugh. We had fun and I really needed to have fun again.
When Chris met my boys, they instantly took to him and I still joke that he only married me so he could play with them. Video games with Aden, swimming in the pool, creating and building things with Ethan, camping - everything. I didn't realize what a serious family we were until he came along. The kids didn't know a joke when he threw one at them. When they finally started to come around, they wouldn't believe him and would look to me and ask if he was serious. Nowadays, he doesn't get much past them and we can all laugh.
So when I say things went fast . . . well, he moved in fairly quickly. I think it was only a few months after our first actual date. Then I think it was about seven months later he proposed (on the beaches in Playa Del Carmen!) and we got married about 4 months later. No, not wasting any time here! He wanted a child and I always wanted another baby, so moving right along . . . we had my youngest son a little over a year later.
Now don't get me wrong. It wasn't ALL wine & roses and romance. We went through a lot to get where we are today. Even to the point of him moving out while I was pregnant. We were at odds and here I was . . . no longer scared to be on my own and knowing I would do what I had to do for myself and for my kids - with or without him. So, learning everything I did through my divorce made me so independent, I wasn't very flexible. We argued a lot but I remember he was always able to make me laugh. I remember feeling like I was robbing him of these experiences I was having while pregnant. He didn't have kids so this would have been new for him. Talon was kicking me from the inside and I was sad he wasn't there to share it with him. He moved back in and it was really hard. I was hormonal, emotional, tired, BIG . . . (Ladies, I know you get this if you have been pregnant. Guys, you get that if you've had a wife or girlfriend and seen them through pregnancy, right?) Anyway, we went through lots of counseling and learning how to understand, communicate and support each other. I think having Talon (along with the counseling) really helped both of us. How could we not love this little guy? He was amazing and we made him! The big boys were so in love with him. I also think that it helped Chris understand me better now that he was a father himself - how I would "handle" my boys and my mood swings when they went with their dad.
As you can see we did survive our stubborn ways and have made a really nice life for ourselves. We respect each other, have fun and make each other laugh. We still get mad and have our differences but we have learned to accept them for what they are and we actually get past them pretty quickly now.
We are really enjoying the family life and spending time with each other and our kids.
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I didn't forget . . . I'm still going to share how the martial arts has helped me along with some of the books and authors that I have fallen in love with because they have been so influential to me on this journey we call life.
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